Padawan

“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.”

~ Shannon L. Alder

“Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.” Philippians 4:9 (KJV)

“And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men, who shall be able to teach others also.” 2 Timothy 2:2 (KJV)

MULTIPLICATION

Multiplication is just a very fast and efficient form of addition. If you want to leave your mark in life, this is one math fact which you will want to embrace, because multiplication is the best way to ensure your legacy. It is though the lives of others you invest in as a mentor, that you can have your greatest impact.

We sometimes call a person being mentored - a disciple. A disciple is a person who follows a leader and they do something more; a disciple reproduces themself in the lives of others who come after them. So we have two important aspects of discipleship; copy and multiply. These two ideas can change your life and even change the world! If you don’t multiply your beliefs, practices and experience in the lives of others, they will soon be lost.

Do you remember the Star Wars movies? They tell about a religious sect called the Jedi who had a very strict system of training their understudies called "Padawans." Their whole plan went wrong when they failed to properly mentor and govern one from among their own ranks and he became their nemesis. Darth Vader was a disciple … but of the wrong leader. He became the Dark Lord of the universe as a direct result of ineffective discipleship by the Jedi. I am not saying that if you do not properly disciple those under you, they will bring the universe to ruin - but it is something to think about. What could you be doing right now to properly guide those who look to you for leadership?

The philosophy of reproducing ourself through others relates to raising our children as well as training our employees and the impact we have on any others who may be looking to us for leadership. It is a universal truth that we will reap what we have sown.

I have been blessed to have a series of great men who have invested in my life to guide me when I needed it. It has not always been easy to receive their input but because the relationships were built on love and trust, there was a solid foundation making it easier. We all need to be looking around us for someone we can invest in and for someone to invest in us – it flows both ways. I never met a successful leader who did not have a series of mentors helping them and I never met a wise man who did not seek to mentor others. The choice is yours to take this admonition seriously; copy and multiply. That is the best way any of us can leave a lasting legacy and assure our long-term success.

Essential Insight – “Multiplication is the only math that really adds up.”

Dreamers

“Status Quo is just a Latin phrase describing the mess we are in.”

Are you inclined to think about how things could be or ought to be or do you more often bemoan the way they really are? A dreamer should be a person who wants to be a difference-maker. They are not content just to identify the problem; they want to help fix it and make the world a better place.

There is a fine balance between being a dreamer and just being discontent with our circumstances. It is possible to make yourself miserable by finding something wrong with everything that happens ... and that is not dreaming; it’s complaining! A complainer is selfish and worried about themselves ahead of everyone else.

Most dreamers never get engaged in problem-solving. They dream about the way things should be but they cannot connect the dots in a constructive manner and just leave us all dissatisfied and ill at ease with the status quo. A lot of news and particularly political analysts are this type of dreamers; we typically call them idealists or even critics. They are people who are disconnected from reality and can only find fault and never seem to know what the solution is.

So we have dreamers who are self-centered, dreamers who are just critics or complainers and dreamers who have no answers. Let me propose another kind of dreamer that we should all seek to become. Let’s be dreamers who are change-agents. Let’s strive to spend as much time on problem-solving as we spend on identifying the problem. Or if we don’t have enough good ideas let’s try to partner with someone who does, instead of providing just half the formula and frustrating everyone around us.

I love dreamers and want to be classified as a visionary person myself. But let’s not be satisfied with just half the formula and end up pointing out the obvious and failing to provide what’s needed most – solutions. That will separate you from all the rest and confirm your right to be a dreamer!

“All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.” ~ T.E. Lawrence

If I knew Then, What I Know Now

“Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.” - Winston Churchill

When I was a young man in college I never dreamed how important computers would become to all of us. One special guest lecturer who visited our campus was Rear Admiral Grace Murray Hopper (Commander at the time) who was the pioneer developer of the embryonic computer and programming language for the US Navy. I thought all this computer stuff was just for mathematicians and egg-heads. I knew computers would never be of any practical use to me later in life.

I was focused on how I would enjoy my journey (playing sports and dating girls) with little thought as to where the trip would take me. It seems stupid now as I think about it, but that is just the point – I had no real plan. I was a kid who still thought in terms of doing what was fun at the time and did not think about where my daily choices might take me. Well, I grew up and learned many valuable lessons along the way; one of the most important being, that I needed to have a vision for where I wanted to go in life and then focus on how I was going to get there..

A very valuable piece of advice I received in this regard was from a mentor who had worked for many years as a manager in the business world. He shared that even the most daunting task can be broken down into smaller pieces that are more easily doable. In the same way, our life’s goals can be broken into bite–sized chunks that are not so difficult to achieve, one at a time. First, we need to decide what we want to accomplish and work back from there to where we are now to find our starting point.

My highest personal priority in life has always been to be an “impact player.” When I finally got serious about making a plan for my life, I decided to seek out someone who had led that kind of a life and learn from them. So I did just that and one thing has lead to another … and here I am. Notice that I focused on “what” I wanted to do, first and then “how” I would do it… I followed my dream and have discovered that the “steps” have taken care of themselves as I stayed focused on “the vision.”

If I had a plan as a young man in college, it was to never use a computer again once that computer science class was over. Now here I am sitting at my laptop sharing this idea. Isn’t it ironic how our methods can change even when our vision stays the same? If I knew then what I know now, I could have saved myself a lot of the frustration I felt early in life by focusing more on my objective than the methods by which I would achieve it.

“When you make your plans, first focus on where you want to go and then how you go about it will more easily fall into place.”

The Oscar

“Winning is not a sometime thing; it's an all time thing.” - Vince Lombardi

Who will win the Oscar? It is always a horse race until the very end, but along the way we are given some important clues. Just as in life, the race does not always go to the hardest worker or most gifted. The award sometimes goes to the most popular or charismatic.

When you are recognized for your life’s work, will you be deserving of the accolades you crave or will the ceremony be a sham in which you can take no pride or pleasure? The choice is yours because the path leading to the winner’s podium is cobbled now as you are far distant from the finish line.

Choices; in the beginning we make them and in the end, they make us. What kind of choices are you making today that will lead you into the winner’s circle despite the dictates of popular opinion?

Live according to the promptings of your heart. You know what to do! Even when they are not immediately gratifying, cling to the values you know are correct. Do what is right. Virtue is its own reward. And when the final verdict is rendered, you will know in your heart that you held nothing in reserve. That will be your reward and no one can take it from you.

“If you give your best every day, you will be given the Oscar for the performance your life.”

What Are You Here For?

“To forget one's purpose is the commonest form of stupidity.” - Friedrich Nietzsche

We do not all have the same abilities or opportunities but we all have the privilege of determining the purpose to which we will dedicate ourselves. A wise man once told me that there were only three big decisions that most of us will ever make in life; who are you going to live your life with; what are you going to live your life in; and what are you going to live your life for? It’s that third question that seems to stump most of us. What are you living your life for?

As a college student, I worked for a time in an automotive plant to fund my schooling. It was a very routine job that I found unfulfilling. Most of my co-workers hated their job and talked all the time about how they would live out their retirement doing what they really wanted to do. Unfortunately most folks don't fulfill their dreams in retirement and more importantly - why would we want to wait? I determined right then and there that I would seek to find a purpose for my life that I could live for each day. I wanted something that made me wake up every morning with thankfulness that I was alive.

Have you found a worthwhile purpose for your life? Success has been defined as: “the progressive realization of a worthwhile, pre-determined goal.” Establish a handful of worthy goals in your life and give yourself fully to accomplishing them. In establishing your life-purposes, start with your relationship with God, your family and your work. These top three areas of your life need the most urgent attention.

“Settle on your life-purposes and sell out to accomplish them each day.”

She'll Steal Your Heart

“I can think of nothing less pleasurable than a life devoted to pleasure.” – John D. Rockefeller

Illicit sex and moral laxity are more readily accepted in our culture than they should be. The implications of this permissiveness go far deeper than one might think. Anything that ignites our desires and passions to the detriment of our good judgment and common sense could be considered a harlot who would potentially steal our heart and fracture our life.

Who or what is the harlot that wants to steal your life? What is it that has potential to bring ruin upon you if you give in to its unhealthy attraction? It might be sex, food, drugs, lust for power or influence – maybe it is ambition. The very definition of an addiction is a compulsion to embrace destructive behavior despite its detrimental effects. We have seen this weakness illustrated time and again in the lives of famous men and women who are consumed by some uncontrolled appetite. Is there anything in your life that you find yourself doing no matter how bad the potential consequences may be?

We don’t usually set out to destroy our self. More than likely, we are just trying to have a good time or escape the pressures of our life for a while by having a little fun. Years ago in Wheeling, WV I met a brilliant flame that burned out too early; his name was Roger Miller. Backstage, Roger was about to go out for a performance. He was drunk and smoking like a house on fire. Roger was a man of great musical talent and humor – a gifted individual, but just a few short years later he was dead of cancer at the age of 56. His untimely death was undoubtedly hastened by his bad habits and a fast life lived on the road. What a tragic waste! All the talent in the world could not overcome the harlot of hard living and the reckless pursuit of pleasure.

If we have a clear mission in our life we will not be easily distracted by the sideshows along the way. A lot of leaders push themselves very hard most of the time and in that environment it is easy to tell yourself that you deserve a little break from the pressure. I agree with that philosophy; work hard and play hard. The problems come in the choice of our play. Take time to relax and give yourself some margin, by all means, but don’t do something stupid that could erase all your hard work up to now.

Find appropriate outlets for your recreation that will let you slow down and enjoy yourself but that do not have the potential to destroy you. Take time to think, rest, reflect and enjoy others – all with the thought of building yourself up, not tearing yourself down.

“Don’t give in to your unseemly passions. Learn to have fun without letting it become wreck-reation.”

Flat Tire on the Fast Track

“He that can have patience can have what he will.” - Benjamin Franklin

An acquaintance of mine bought one of the first DeLoreans to come off the assembly line. It used to belong to John DeLorean himself but he had to give it up. You have probably heard the story of DeLorean’s amazing rise to success in the auto industry with development of the Pontiac GTO and then later his own car make named after himself. But he lost it all; his family, his business and yes, even his car, because he went too far too fast in his pursuit of success. Patience was not a virtue in the fast paced auto industry in which the young and ambitious DeLorean circulated and it may not be in the circles you travel either. Impatience was a major factor in bringing about his downfall; will it bring you down?

What you may not know is that John DeLorean had a major philosophical life-change when he hit the speed bumps of life and reinvented himself as a new person. I think it is safe to say that John learned the truth late in life after he had almost given himself away to his debtors and strangers while traveling down the fast track searching for fame and success.

A very successful and wise businessman once warned me that “you do not go into business but you grow into business.” Take time to build what you want very carefully and thoroughly so it is solid and will resist the bumps in the road that all new ventures inevitably face.

It is never too late to throw our life into reverse if we detect that we are travelling too fast or are on the wrong road. Have courage today. Slow down. Be honest with yourself and work to develop the patience you need to build your own success over time. When we see a door of opportunity, there is nothing wrong with turning the doorknob to see if it will open but a lot of heartache can follow if we break down a door that is locked. I have learned some bitter lessons when I have done this. Being in a hurry to create my success also places a burden on me to sustain that which I have created. On the other hand, when a door is open and I am allowed to go through it without force, I can rest in the knowledge that the timing is correct and the other supporting factors on which I depend are also in place.

“Patiently wait for your success and the results will be greater than you could ever create through the force of your will.”

Who's On First?

“Action expresses priorities.” – Mohandas Gandhi

Who or what has first place in your life? Is it your job; a hobby; money; your family; self-indulgence? What is at the top of the list? A quick scan of your personal schedule or check book will give you valuable insight into your priorities.

My dog, Gracie, has only one thing on her mind most of the time – food. She is adorable and I love her but if she had to choose between me and a fortune cookie, I would lose every time. Gracie has a clear sense of what comes first for her.

Because you are not an animal, you have the capacity to rise above your natural instincts. Use your mind and will to take charge of your purpose. Discover and, if necessary, re-direct what drives you. What is at the core of your motivation? Scrutinize your values. That knowledge about yourself can unlock amazing power in your life. Remember the objective is not just to get on base but to score; so a clear game plan is a must.

Granted, we all struggle with establishing the correct priorities and sticking to them. But have you ever methodically articulated the priorities you want to embrace? Are you just going with the currents in your life or are you focused on a worthwhile objective? I suggest you inject a little thought and discipline into the process. If you put the right things at the top, every other aspect of your life is more likely to fall into place as it should.

One possible priority could be to put others first. Years ago, a friend of mine offered to introduce me to Mother Teresa in India. I wanted to meet her because she was probably the most famous person of our time to make other people her first priority. She lived it; she didn’t just talk about it. First we determine the direction of our heart and eventually our hands and feet will follow.

People who put others first will always stand out from the crowd. Try to find a way to channel your ambition and energy into something beneficial to others. Maybe the company you work for can give away the product you sell to those in need. Or you can use some of the money you make to help those who are less blessed. If you are stuck in a routine assignment and find it challenging to relate your profession to helping others, then use your spare time to make a contribution to the world around you. If you set your mind to it, you can be a difference-maker.

We are all capable of doing something noble, even if it is less dramatic than Mother Teresa. It all starts with a sense of purpose deep in your heart. Decide what you are most deeply committed to achieving, make sure it is worthwhile and go for it with all your energy.

"Decide what’s important, give it first place in your life and everything else will fall into line."

Little Things Add Up

"Knowledge is power." - Sir Francis Bacon

It is often said that “a little knowledge can be dangerous,” but I have found that an accumulation of many bits of knowledge or experiences gathered over a lifetime can have a very powerful effect.

About 100 A.D., Rome was still a dominant force on the world scene. One of her generals, Quintus Sertorius, found himself far from home in Spain with a vast territory to defend and an army composed almost entirely of undisciplined conscripts. So he called them together to teach them an important lesson on what it would take to be a successful army.

To make his point he gathered the army around the most physically impressive warrior in his ranks along with his smallest and least conspicuous soldier. In front of the great warrior he placed a small scraggly pony and in front of the smaller soldier he placed a mighty war horse. Then he gave both soldiers the task of pulling out their horse’s tail but by two very different methods. The stout soldier was instructed to pull off the tail in one clump and the small soldier was told to do so, one hair at a time. You can guess the outcome. It was the weaker soldier who triumphed over the war horse and the mighty soldier who failed despite all his apparent advantages over the pony; because a horse tail’s strength is found in its many strands.

A wise leader will succeed by collecting, learning from and applying many seemingly small principals for his life’s success. They will be like the multitude of strands in the horse’s tail which make it impervious to being overpowered by the brute force of a single setback.

A foolish person often looks merely to an individual gift, personal strength or single insight for his success. This is a weak approach because there is no unity of purpose or back-up supporting his effort. It lacks insight to let our dreams sink or swim on such a fragile matrix.

Leadership finds its strength through many combined bits of knowledge and wisdom gleaned from our experiences, just as the many hairs of the horse’s tail make it strong.

"Build the probability of your success by marshaling the many resources and knowledge gathered over your lifetime."

The Message of Leadership

I wrote the Message of Leadership as an inspirational book for leaders of all kinds. It contains 31 daily readings on different topics inspired by the 31 chapters of the ancient book of Proverbs which was written by the wisest man who ever lived.

My goal was to combine these proverbs with pithy personal insights and stories that will make a leader think about the way they exert their gift of leadership on those around them. It is suitable as a gift for those graduating from school, leaders in government, teachers, business associates, moms or anyone who leads others or aspires to do so. I originally intended it as a special way to say thanks to those who give of themselves for our benefit.

Not only will you get my inspirational thoughts, but you will also receive the entire book of Proverbs as translated by Eugene Peterson in "The Message." The volume comes either in the regular paperback edition or a special first edition cover and I will gladly autograph it to you upon request. This book is available directly from: http://www.danielsouthern.com/products.html

I hope this little book of insights will be a blessing to you.

Soap Box Racer

When I was about 4 years old, my Dad built me a race car that would coast downhill at a pretty good clip. It was very cool. I remember how we first decided to build the Racer. Dad was a Medical Doctor in the Air Force and we found an old Jeep steering wheel in a junk heap; that was the start of our vision. It was so exciting! My Dad could build anything and so we went to work. In what seemed like no time at all, we had ourselves a championship soap box racer. I can still remember it in vivid detail - more than 50 years later. It was black, had red hub caps, a great big black steering wheel and it even had brakes. Wow!! I was the star of the neighborhood.

Today I had a blast from the past. As I walked my dog on trash pick-up day, we saw that someone had discarded their homemade racer. Just looking at it, took me back 50 years in time. As I studied the mechanical marvel in front of me I made several interesting observations.

First, there must have been a dream that brought this contraption into being. I imagine it had to do with a father and a son and maybe a boyhood memory the father wanted to recreate for his own son; or perhaps a son who had a dream of replicating something he saw in a book or on TV. Together they agreed to bring that dream to fruition.

Second, I could see elements of brilliance in the effort. A lot of what sat before me demonstrated a good deal of cleaver thinking; a block that was strategically positioned to keep the front axle from turning too far and causing an unwanted overturn; a rope tied to that same axel to steer it. Both ends of the rope were carefully taped to keep them from fraying and washers strategically placed on both sides of the bolt holding the wheels in place so that friction was kept to a minimum - all very ingenious.

Third, someone had used first class materials to build the racer. The wheels alone would have cost 10$ apiece at a hardware store, expensive long bolts used to hold the lumber together, new 3/8 inch cording for the rope steering guides and pressure treated lumber used as the framework - all showed that someone started out to build a deluxe vehicle. No expense was spared on this little project.

Fourth, there were places where I could see that a child had added his own touches. The most obvious indication was that the seat had been poorly nailed in place. This is the kind of thing a Dad usually allows when he realizes his son wants to help but hasn't had a chance because Dad is doing everything himself; so the son is allowed to drive a few nails in a place that really can't hurt anything... and then there was the green spray paint applied haphazardly in only a few places. again, the father allowing his son to be a part of the project, but his inexperience did not really jeopardize anything important.

Fifth, there were places where I could see that neither father nor son really knew what to do. The strongest indication of this was a lack of any breaking mechanism. I can tell you from my own experience how important that can be! That's when we need to call in the experts or we could get our self in real trouble.

Sixth, I could see that there was a point at which it probably wasn't turning out as well as they imagined. There were a lot of little fixes all over the racer where small pieces of wood had been attached to remedy a little problem or screws had been put in to reinforce the effort as a "Second-thought" and had split the wood or it was broken away. The big idea was in place but the little important touches just were not there to support the grand scheme of things.

And lastly, I found it in the junk heap because they had obviously given up on their dream. Somehow in the building of the race car, enough problems had arisen that it had killed their enthusiasm and the project. The racer looked unused, broke-down and really not very impressive as first glance.

All this was a parable of what so many of us experience in different areas of our life. We start off with a grand vision that inspires us and those around us. We have the big picture in mind and it flows effortlessly as we begin the process. We put our best resources into the effort believing this will be a trophy accomplishment; then the project begins to degrade as we let less talented individuals tamper with our vision. We get out of our depth as we strive to bring the effort to completion and then we cannot finish what we have started because even from the beginning the plan was not fully developed in every detail. So we try to finish but we cannot and therefore become frustrated with ourselves for even taking on such a grand enterprise. And lastly we throw our effort away out of disappointment and sometimes hopeless discouragement.

Any enterprise is made strong by wise planning and careful execution. But most importantly don't give up on your dream even when it does not turn our perfectly at first.

"Learn to perfect your dreams over time as you polish them through experience and determination"